Developed by Lisa McGifford (Evolve Program for Intensive Family Law )
HOPE: that the abuser will change (as promised)(abuse, generally, isn't constant and there is usually a period between explosions where things as much as they once were
LOVE: she loves her partner, and only hates what's being done to her she can't imagine leaving someone she loves she believes no-one else will love her
SHAME: what will other's think? she may be concerned that people will look down on her she likely believes that she caused/deserved the abuse, and has no right to leave
BELIEF SYSTEM: it is never right to break up the family kids need two parents marital vows are taken very seriously religious beliefs can strongly discourage leaving
FINANCES: fear that she will have nothing and will not be supported in any way she doesn't have a clue how she will support herself/the kids
CONFUSION: is it really abuse? what if she acted differently?
LACK OF INFROMATION; not aware of rights and resources has normalized abuse, often having grown up witnessing/experiencing it
DEFEAT: she may believe that she's helpless/powerless to affect the circumstances she may believe all the messages she's been given about her inability to cope
SELF-ESTEEM: she may have come to believe that she deserves what's happening leaving is hard -- most people don't do hard things for someone they don't like
FAMILY PRESSURE: she may be dealing with family members who do not understand and encourage her to stay and work it out
SOCIAL PRESSURE: women are surrounded
by messages that tell us that our relationship is the most important thing
and that our value as human beings is contingent upon the success or failure
to "find/keep a man"
Klinic Crisis Line 786-8686 [Sexual
Assault Crisis Line: 786-6851]
24-hour Crisis Line for anyone needing
to talk.
Ma Mawi Wi Chi Itata -- 772-0303
For aboriginal people. Counselling for
all members of a family in which abuse has concerned.
Family Centre of Winnipeg -- 947-1401
Counselling
Klinic Crisis Line 786-8686
24-hour Crisis Line for anyone needing
to talk.
Ma Mawi Wi Chi Itata -- 772-0303
For aboriginal people. Counselling for
all members of a family in which abuse has concerned.
Ma Mawi Wi Chi Itata -- 772-0303
For aboriginal people. Counselling for
all members of a family in which abuse has concerned.